“It's the menopause. It happens to every woman.” So why are there women it doesn't happen to?

1. The man who turned upside down what we believe about the menopause

If you wake up drenched in sweat four or five times a night, and during the day you have to leave the room when a flush comes, the routine is almost the same for everyone: hormone levels, thyroid, perhaps a prescription for HRT. Then the sentence most people hear word for word: “Your hormone levels are normal for your age. It's the menopause. Try to relax.”

And that's where the investigation stops. Many stop HRT because of the side effects, get something else instead, and everything stays the same. But nobody ever asks why your body sounds the alarm even when nothing has happened.

Antal Lajos, author of The Unlimited Power of Your Subconscious, set out to answer exactly that question. He isn't a doctor and doesn't claim to be one, and his book doesn't replace your gynaecologist. What he offers is something else: an explanation for what the hormone test can't answer.

There are women who, at the same age and with the same hormone levels, barely notice this time of life. They sleep through the night. They don't carry a spare top. They don't keep watching the door during a dinner. Not because they're luckier. And not because their oestrogen somehow fell differently.

If your nervous system is in a calm baseline state, the drop in oestrogen that comes with age is just a small inconvenience. But if it has been running on high cortisol, on constant alert, for decades, because thirty years of unprocessed tension, worry and fear sit in your subconscious, then the slightest shift sets off the alarm. Your body isn't overreacting to the temperature. It's reacting to its own state of alert.

That's why your symptoms don't go away with what you've tried so far.

HRT raises the level that has dropped, but doesn't touch your baseline state. A herbal remedy dulls things for a few weeks, then your body gets used to it. The fan, the cooling pillow, dressing in layers kick in when the flush has already started. An antidepressant turns down the signal, but doesn't switch off what's sending it.

They all do the same thing: treat the symptom while the cause stays untouched. That's why everything comes back as soon as you stop.

2. The foundations of the “Subconscious Control” method

So how can you remove the root of the problem, and not just treat the symptoms? Most books and speakers teach you to consciously change your thoughts, but that's only 10% of the story. The brain's “background program”, the subconscious, controls 90% of our actions, like a silent puppet master pulling the strings from behind the scenes.

And not only our actions. The hot flush doesn't come from your hormones, but from your nervous system: your brain's thermostat sits right next to the part that sounds the alarm. If your subconscious has been telling it for decades that you're in danger, your cortisol level stays high, the alarm never switches off, and your thermostat sends out false alarms. That's why the flush starts even when nothing has happened.

That's why any method that ignores the role of the subconscious is doomed to fail. Real change comes when we're able to reprogram the harmful patterns, fears and limits that sit in the subconscious.

In his book, Antal Lajos offers an approach and a practical method that let change happen easily and naturally, without effort or struggle.

4. How does the method work in practice?

While most solutions urge you to focus on outside factors, HRT, dressing in layers, a cooling pillow, giving up wine and spicy food, that's not enough for real change. In fact, sadly, failure is guaranteed.

If your subconscious is full of unprocessed fears and stress memories, no conscious goal-setting will be able to change them. What's more, if you don't get the result, you'll feel even more frustrated, which makes exactly what you wanted to improve even worse.

For the outside to change, you first have to change on the inside, and never the other way round. The good news is that anyone can do this, and the solution is easier than many people think. With the right method, fast and significant changes can happen in anyone's life.

“Subconscious Control” is based partly on Dr. Alexander Loyd's Healing Code method, and on José Silva's mind-control method and visualization. The newly released Practical Guide helps you learn the method further, step by step, a few minutes each evening.

5. Reader feedback and real results

The “Subconscious Control” method hasn't had a major impact only on Antal Lajos's family, but on hundreds of readers too. The book comes with a free annex, Reader Experiences, where readers share real examples.

Many women report that their night sweats and hot flushes have eased noticeably, and that the irritability put down to the menopause quietened by itself. Some were able to get rid of decades of panic disorder, sleep problems or stage fright.

Several readers report relief from physical pain, such as migraines, joint pain or skin problems, and for a great many people struggling with relationship problems the method brought a solution too.

One reader was even promoted at work shortly after starting the method.